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Post by shiuze on Jun 24, 2007 18:08:00 GMT -5
I'm going through a tough time now T_T I dunno if I want to be online much Sigh But I am really, really sad right now.. ._. My love of my life lives 6 hours away from me but I never met him before and now both of our parents want me to let him go.. .__.;; Because I found out he has autism (look it up) and they said if I come over something would happen since he's socially challenged..And..I haven't talked to him all day because by me talking to him, the parents say he gets so depressed because he's not able to see me blah blah and whatever depresses me makes him feel worse that he doesn't know what to do or to even commit suicide.. All day..I've been crying..Wishing..I can just DO something. All this just seems like my fault he's depressed because of our distance..I dunno what to do anymore...I can barely eat or sleep.
Yeah, sorry you're hearing this from a new member but I just...Really want to know what to do..
I can't lose another person..
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Post by Butterscotch on Jun 24, 2007 20:27:23 GMT -5
I'm assuming this is an online relationship?
Now, i don't know much about autism, but from what I do know, it may be easier for him to relate to people online, and if you guys did meet, it might be totally different from what happens online. Of course, this can happen with anyone, autistic or not.
There may be some sort of compromise you can make. Have you talked on the phone?
As hard as it may be, though, you may be best off listening to both parents. I know that's hardly what you want to hear, but based on what little I know, I don't think their worries are misguided.
Ultimatly, though, you are an adult. If you want to meet him, you can. Your parents can't stop you.
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Post by Sugar on Jun 25, 2007 2:18:55 GMT -5
your parents are only looking out for you and your best interest... I would say to listen to them and just keep your friendship online or phone for now.
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Post by popkat on Jun 25, 2007 3:14:48 GMT -5
Sugar is right.
You're still a teenager. It's quite common to rebel and junk.
Ican say this stuff because I know...manythings.
Don't do anything reckless.You might regret it.
Online relationships maybe cool but it's hard.Try to prevent it,no matter how much you feel about that person.
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Post by moko on Jun 25, 2007 14:20:13 GMT -5
both of your two's parents may be right about something happening if you two meet...... i dunno, it really depends on how high his degree of autism is. my mom works with autistic kids, and she's told me that there can be different degrees or something of it; there are some people with autism that you can tell just off the bat, but others would just seem like normal people. i dunno how severe your boyfriend's case is, so it's really not my place to say whether your parents are right or not.
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Post by popkat on Jun 26, 2007 4:42:56 GMT -5
Well that's true, moko. Though, I have a classmate, he is rather autistic himself. All he wants was to die. But I think its safe if you keep your relationship in the internet, only. If you meet him in real life, I dunno how you'll feel. But what I just said was only a suggestion. If you want to meet him, DO IT.
Love is a passionate emotion that almost nothing can outwit. I have to ask you,how long have you had a relationship with him...?
You have to understand that there are certain limits. I don't think autism can be cured, though. It will be rather hard and challenging if you continue having a relationship with him.
I'm sorry if you might have gotten offended.
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Post by moko on Jun 26, 2007 12:19:52 GMT -5
I don't think autism can be cured, though. It will be rather hard and challenging if you continue having a relationship with him. it can't be cured, but it can be helped; that's why there's special therapists for them, like my mom. <_< i don't know if her boyfriend had a therapist or not, though. it's hard to tell if the relationship would work or not, since we don't know what he's like. |
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Post by shiuze on Jun 26, 2007 13:31:38 GMT -5
Aww @_@ Well, everything's fine now. I'm talking to him again and he missed me <3 and he knows how badly i missed him @____@;;;; So thanks to those who gave advice
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Post by Pickle on Jun 27, 2007 19:09:51 GMT -5
Wait until you are an adult. That's all I say about on-line stuff.
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Post by Butterscotch on Jun 28, 2007 9:09:05 GMT -5
She's 18
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Post by Pickle on Jun 29, 2007 3:09:14 GMT -5
Then I agree with what popkat said: It could be a challenging relationship, but if you two are both adults, then that's up to you two. But like with any on-line relationship, you would want to wait some time before you meet.
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Post by popkat on Jun 29, 2007 5:34:19 GMT -5
It's popkat.
Sometimes nice ppl you meet in the internet are actually jackasses in real life.
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Post by Pickle on Jun 29, 2007 6:23:25 GMT -5
You are right!
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Post by popkat on Jun 29, 2007 6:50:21 GMT -5
I am often right. Who knows, maybe Pickle is nice in real life... O.o
I'm a short-tempered brat myself.
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