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Post by Dragonic Darkness on Jun 30, 2008 21:16:12 GMT -5
Okay, well I suppose this is aimed more at those of you who are older, but for those who are younger (as in, not even knocking on college's door) if you think you can help, by all means I'd appreciate your input...
Anyways, I'm going off to college next year... And my girlfriend has been pressuring me to make a decision... On what you ask?
Well, on whether or not we should stay together when I leave.
She's two years younger than I am, and she really doesn't want to break up... Honestly, I sort of like the prospect of staying with her once I leave as well... But I dislike long-distance relationships... It's fine if it's only for a short while, but for years, like this? I don't know...
Anyways, I really don't know what to tell her. I adore her and I'd love to stay with her, to at least give the long distance thing a shot... But something tells me that if I do, it'll turn for the worse. Also, I somewhat feel like she'll somehow be holding me back a bit if I do stay with her... as if I won't be able to experience college in it's entirety, or I'll be WAY to distracted with my work...
I don't know, I just wanted to know what you guys thought I should do... Or your views on the matter... I'm just really confused and am really not sure what to tell her. Everytime I hint at breaking up (because that's what my gut tells me) she always looks so heart broken... And I really love this girl... I don't want to do this to her... I don't think she'd ever forgive me, and she's not exactly the type to wait around for someone if she thinks she's not #1. ._.''
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Post by Sugar on Jul 1, 2008 20:46:45 GMT -5
Follow your heart.. if your doubting you should break up, then don't at least for now and let things fall where they should.. and long distance can work, it just takes a little more effort. And congrats and good luck DD!!
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Post by BorderWolf on Jul 11, 2008 5:51:57 GMT -5
I have to agree with Sugar, follow your heart. Long distance relationships are hard to keep, so see how your relationship is after two years.
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Post by zero on Jul 11, 2008 10:56:24 GMT -5
long distance relationships aren't that hard to maintain. I have one currently. So long as you call her once a day, talk for awhile, and always remember to send gifts on important days (birthday, christmas, dating anniversary) you'd be fine. Cause you'll always be reminding her that she's that important to you, even though such a distance seperates you.
But if you're doubting, don't bail at the first sign of hesitation. you gotta test the waters for a bit, and if you know that it isn't gonna work, break it to her easy. Love hurts, and it's gonna take awhile for finding what you're looking for. It also doesn't hurt if you have a friend who's friends with her. They'll always understand your worries and will keep an eye on things for you while things are away. If they see things taking a turn for the worst, they'll tell you straight-away, so you don't have to go through much more heartbreak hearing it from the girl herself.
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Post by Skittles on Mar 31, 2010 20:38:46 GMT -5
I need serious advice. I found out that the guy who is becoming a good friend might like me more than a friend. But i don't know if I like him that way cause I'm too busy worrying about my more or less ex-best friend is becoming increasingly distant and she barely speaks to me. And I'm worried about her cause she seems really depressed but she gets mad a me if I try and talk to her about it. So the guy who might or might not like me in a crush way is becoming more of a best friend but I've never done the boyfriend thing and I don't want to ruin our friendship cause we're in that awkward not just friends but not quite best friends stage. Help!  |
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Post by Simfarmguru on Mar 31, 2010 22:21:36 GMT -5
Guys appreciate honesty Skittles, or so my hubbie tells me.
@dd-I've had a long distance relationship before, and I have a friend who has one...we've both done great. Heck, my long distance boyfriend is now my husband!
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